I’m still over the moon excited to be engaged to my amazing boyfriend. I can’t wait for us to be married and start out life together. I shared some wedding inspiration here and here but wanted to give an update. In the efforts to keep it real on my blog, I want to be honest about the ugly side of planning a wedding. It is a lot more stressful than I realized. I know that a lot of women really glamorize the wedding process and enjoy it, but it’s something we are struggling with. Here are some major things I’ve noticed:
It’s expensive – Add the word wedding to anything and the price doubles! We all know that the price of weddings has gone up but according to CNN Money the average cost of a wedding in 2016 was $32,641. Excuse me while I pick my jaw off the floor. That is absolutely insane to me and something we refuse to contribute to.
Beside the sheer amount of money that a wedding costs, the major thing that scares me is how the amount of money you spend on a wedding is correlated to the divorce rate. (meaning, the more money you spend on your wedding the higher the odds are that you get divorced) They always say that money is the top reason for divorce. So why would I start my marriage stressed about money?
I’m not a party planner – The next scary thing about planning a wedding is actually planning it. I’m not party planner and don’t claim to be one so planning a party for 200 people is extremely intimidating! I can find inspiration on Pinterest but bringing it to life is another thing! I work full-time and write this blog, I don’t have that much time for researching and creating those projects.
Apparently my fiancé is more traditional then I knew – I tried to convince my fiancé that we should go to the courthouse to get married but he stopped it pretty quick. I never would have guessed but he want’s a traditional wedding more than I do!
So many decisions – At the end of the day there are so many decisions! There are big decisions about where and when to have your wedding then small details like what color the napkins should be… I feel confident saying the list is endless. My fiancé has been great about helping with these decisions, I feel like a lot of them are left to me.
It’s the brides day – This is a phrase I hear all the time and it kills me! Yes, a lot about weddings has to do with the bride but the reason people are coming to your wedding is to celebrate your love and the start of your marriage. I think your wedding day should be about your love together not doing everything the bride wants.
My fiancé and I have agreed that we aren’t going to let the wedding planning process overwhelm us. We aren’t going to let the pressures of planning a wedding get to us because we are going to do it our way. We’ve set a budget (well below the $32k average) and agreed on what we want. At the end of the day, we don’t want it to be just another wedding. We want it to be all about our love and future together.
Are you engaged? Do you feel this way planning your wedding?
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